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Monday, April 19, 2010

A cross in the road...

Welcome to "Real talk with Shelby"...haha!!

So picture this...I am 22 living at home and partying it up with girls that I've been friends with since I was in middle school and guys that I've known since high school.  I re-meet this hot, fresh-out-of-the-Marines, guy and fall madly in love!  Fast forward 3 and a half years and I am married, mom of a 1 and a half year old and soon to be newborn, and living 40 minutes away from all that I've ever really known.  These girls I was partying with (some of my closest friends) are all either single or no where near being settled and for the most part living at home still.  The partying has settled a bit, but not for the reasons mine have drastically changed.
So basically this leads me to reflect on some current observations I've made...it seems more and more often lately my titles as Mrs. and mommy have separated me from the pack.  I seem to be getting less and less phone calls from these girls.  I know the street goes both ways, but my days really do escape me.  I remember to call people in the morning (when everyone is at work) and then the next thing you know its time for bed!  Its a funny feeling to hear your husband get invited out by these people and not me.  I know most likely, being 8 months pregnant and all, I probably won't be going out on a Saturday night, but no one ever suggests any other plans that I can actually be involved in.  A few months ago when I did have a little gathering planned at my house I started the day in tears because everyone was close to 2 hours late (not even sure how that happens)!

Then there is my "best friend" who really only seems to have time for my when it suits her, especially when there is a big event to be showcased at.  I even had plans with her tomorrow to hang out with Emma (her goddaughter) and I and a girl we cheered with in high school and her kids.  I tried to get in touch with her today about our plans and to no avail!  Like, really?!?!

Boo Hoo to me haha!  I know I should just get over it and stop being a pregnant hormonal mess, but sometimes you just can't help it but to feel left out.  I can't help but to question myself and what I may have done or not done.  It just sucks!

Sorry for my rant...I am just not myself lately, or maybe I am just at a cross in the road of my life.  My friends seem to be traveling a completely different path then mine right now and I am having trouble finding my own way...by myself!

...Happy Monday everyone!

13 comments:

  1. Sorry you've been feeling left out! I think your true friends are the ones who stick by you through the big changes in life! Me and my hubby don't have kids yet, so it is a bit of a different dynamic with our friends that do, but we try to always stay in touch. Hope your good friends come out soon... or you find some new ones!

    XOXO

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  2. My dear friend is going through the same exact thing right now!! It's so hard and I don't know the right thing to say her ...

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  3. Hang in there Shelby - it's all worth it in the end. You still have all those friends you just need to be patient and you know they'll all be there for you any time you need them. You have so much life left to live darling and the good times will roll for you.
    xoxo - You're living a good life and I'm proud of you

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  4. Glad we had our chat today lady :) I'm sad I'll be moving and we won't get to be closer! Although thank gosh for blogs (:

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  5. I know what you mean. All my friends are young and single [not even close to marriage]. I don't blame them since they know I'm not into the whole going out downtown thing anymore but it does kinda stink that things will never be what they were no matter how hard anyone tries! I guess the 'switch' between life chapters is a little more sticky in real life! :)

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  6. I don't have kids yet and my friends have already all but disappeared. It's a really hard thing to deal with, but I guess you have to just move on when this happens. I have been trying to just let go of the old ones who are not there for me anymore and just to focus on my own life, my husband, our life together, and the new friends we make.

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  7. The older I get, the more my friends slide out of the picture. We are all at similar points in our life, but just too caught up in our own lives to focus on eachothers. It makes me sad. Maybe start looking at ways to meet new friends more in line with your current situation, you know?

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  8. I totally know what your going through. I'm a almost close to married girl pretty much, every one of my friends minus one which doesn't really count because they go out every weekend, is single and living it up. While I'm playing Susie Homemaker. It's still nice to get an invite even if you really don't want to go. But I'm okay with it because I'm happy but I do like my once in a blue moon girls night out or night in for that matter.

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  9. I don't have kids and I'm not technically married, but I feel the same way sometimes. Just know that your true friends will stick by you and that what you are doing is SO important. Nothing is more important than being a good mom!

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  10. i think there always comes a time in life when you move on from your previous friends to make new ones. everyone changes at different points... so, i think it's so difficult to keep the same friends throughout all of life's changes. plus, what amazing blessings you have as a wife and soon-to-be mommy to two!

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  11. I totally understand. It's just crazy how liufe sometimes takes us in different directions. And it really is hard when you have "free" time at different times. Like you said, you find time to call people int he morning and I call people at 5:00pm on my way home from work. Sometimes it's hard to catch up now that we're all "grown ups" in the real world. Sometimes I just want one day to be 19 again... :)

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